Baby Blues, Postpatum and a Boss Baby - Part 1.

It's around 2:30 a.m. on a Tuesday night, and I am sitting in my corner home office, this seems the only time I can focus on writing when the boss goes to sleep :). Amira is four months and one day old today and I am ready to pour my experience into writing. 

What you are about read is based on personal experience, I hope it gives someone a clue about becoming a mother in 2020. 

Where do I start? the weight gain, the breastfeeding, the sleepless nights, or the whole change a woman goes through after having a baby? what about the public comment on your life, body, and baby? the learning process of becoming a parent overnight is priceless. Yes, becoming a parent overnight. 

They say when a baby is born, a parent is born too. That's true because despite being the oldest of six siblings, whom I had to be in their mother's position, because our mother could not be with us for the last ten years and so, because of her health condition, I was totally new to the motherhood and started from scratch. 

Let me start with baby blues, which based on my experience is the result of the labor and tiredness you go through, which afterward when the baby comes, you immediately go to the less sleeping nights face, because you are adjusting to the new situation, and the excitement for the arrival of your little one, you miss out some resting and become overtired. So just after a few days, you feel a little anxiety here and there. Compared to postpartum, baby blues are the short term goal after having a baby.  This state does not last long or can go away easily if you are aware of what's happening and manage to get some rest which is fundamental and what you need the most. 

In my case, it was the sleeping that I managed poorly, there were nights where I gave up sleeping at all but that was the worst decision and affected me negatively. 

The period after that is when the postpartum is on, this stage comes from all the angles, your body, your baby, what you eat, and how you manage everything in your life. 

The community you live with plays a significant role as well, in this stage, as a new mother who is learning about all this new chapter, you need a whole supporting system from your community, partner, family, work place, and everywhere.  Everyone can either contribute in a positive way or better not to comment at all. 

Sometimes, you will become overtired with less sleep, it will be difficult to take care of an infant who is being fuzzy because of a sleep aggregation, now it's time for your partner to jump in and support you the most, it will definitely feel better and look like you are not doing the hard part of the job alone. 

Going out for some fresh air can help fix your mood but the minute you step out of the house, the first family member or friend you meet tells you 'ow you get bigger' or 'ow you changed a lot' don't listen to these comments, life is not a movie. You are beautiful as you are and period. 

To be continued . . . .